ISN'T IT CRAZY WE WERE NEVER TAUGHT WHAT A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP IS AND HOW TO CREATE ONE?
I SEE YOU OVER THERE CHOOSING FEAR OVER LOVE.
The truth is we all are.
Why?
Because we’ve been hurt in love before and hurting sucks. The pain of a breakup. The endless fighting before he leaves. The hole-in-your-heart when he has left the room for the last time. The memories that keep popping up whenever you visit the places you've been to together before...The promise to yourself to never do this again...
This means we now have a BIG BRICK WALL RIGHT AROUND AROUND TENDER HEART.
NOPE, you say to yourself. This love thing hurts too much...
I DON'T WANT TO:
❌ DEAL WITH ANOTHER HEART-ACHE
❌ DOUBT MYSELF EVERY TIME HE DOESN'T CALL ME WHEN HE SAYS HE WILL
❌ ARGUE ABOUT WHO IS RIGHT ANYMORE
❌ FEEL ALL ALONE EVEN THOUGH I'M IN A "RELATIONSHIP"
❌ HAVE TO PICK MYSELF AND MY LIFE UP OVER AGAIN WHEN HE IS GONE
What I find really sad, is that you are basing your current capacity for loving on the shitty past relationships you had, because YOU SIMPLY DIDN'T KNOW HOW TO CREATE THE RELATIONSHIP YOU DESIRE!
“He broke my heart by cheating/leaving/not loving me, so now I need to make sure that doesn’t happen to me again”
You are walking around in bubble wrap protecting yourself from a love you don’t believe is SAFE.
ESSENTIALLY YOU'VE GIVEN UP ON LOVE
and that’s the biggest shame ever. And all because you didn't know any better.
That changes right now.